Husband breastfeeding ‘rule’ for pregnant wife is all the rage on Reddit
A husband is being dragged on Reddit for coming up with an arbitrary ‘rule’ for his pregnant wife who wants to breastfeed. According to the pregnant woman’s post on popular Reddit subreddit Am I The A**hole, her husband has decided she can breastfeed as long as she follows this rule. And big surprise everyone; she’s not in it.
“So I (23F) am pregnant and nearing my due date. My husband (24 months) and I are currently in labor and recovering. His family (m,d & bro) are coming to visit on the way to vacation,” the Redditor explained in her post, and it seems his family visit with the baby has already stressed him out. “He knows I want to try breastfeeding and he said his only ‘rule’ is not to BF in front of his family. He says he doesn’t want me to make his dad and brother uncomfortable and that I should go upstairs to feed our baby every time, every 1-3 hours.
While her husband offered to come with her when she was kicked out of the room to breastfeed their baby in a separate room, she didn’t get it. “My problem is that I will be recovering and I’m supposed to rest, so the stairs that happen often seem like a problem to me. I told her it was about my recovery and my bond with the baby and her family can just leave the room or just NOT WATCH if they are uncomfortable.
She finally dropped the subject as her husband kept insisting, but isn’t ready to give up the fight just yet. Neither should she, according to her fellow Redditors.
“What I want to know is where the hell does the husband get away with telling his wife he has a RULE for her breastfeeding,” wrote one furious user.
“If they can’t stand seeing breastfeeding they shouldn’t be visiting a new mum at this point,” another commented. “They can either grow up or wait several months to visit.”
Another said: “If they are uncomfortable, they are the ones who can leave. It’s yours and your child’s home. Why would you be the only ones hiding? »
Finally, another said: “NTA. Ask him if he would be willing to go up and down the stairs every three hours if his testicles and filth had recently been disembowelled. I suppose not. If they are uncomfortable, they can leave the room.
Fighting the public stigma of breastfeeding has long been an uphill battle, and given the AAP’s recent recommendation that mothers breastfeed for two years, that’s a lot of time to send to another room to feed your baby. Whether it’s your home or someone else’s, there’s nothing shameful about breastfeeding. And if someone is uncomfortable, it’s their responsibility to give them space. And maybe sort out their priorities.